The other extreme is making our acceptance conditional, our welcome driven by a hidden agenda. A very popular book on evangelism called The Contagious Christian explained how we can "leverage" our conversations for Christ. Terrible word. That's exactly the kind of thing that stereotypes Christians as manipulative, and takers, rather than givers.
David Burchett in When Bad Christians Happen to Good People, lists an "Unbeliever's Bill of Rights." The memorable title is mentioned in Beginnings: Around the Fire by Langford, Rawls, and Weber in the chapter, "How Do We Share What We Have Discovered?"
- I have the right to never have faith forced on me.
- I have the right to never be treated in a condescending manner.
- I have the right to always hear the truth.
- I have the right for you to patiently hear my concerns and doubts.
- I have the right to seek answers to those questions and doubts that you can’t answer.
- I have the right to be steered to resources for my own study and investigation.
- I have the right to be loved no matter how I respond to the Gospel message.