Showing posts from January, 2015

Joy is in letting go

Almost every negative emotion you experience is the direct outcome of an attachment.
Anthony De Mello, The Way to Love
This is one of the many great stories that Anthony De Mello tells. It's in his book, Rediscovering Life. The book was published in 2012 to mark the 25th year of his passing.
 A man who was moving from one village to another sees what is called in India a sannyasi.

Here was this wandering sannyasi, and the villager, when he meets him, says, "I cannot believe this." The sannyasi says, "What is it you cannot believe?" The villager says, "I had a dream about you last night. I dreamt that the Lord Vishnu said to me, 'Tomorrow morning, you will leave the village around 11 o'clock and you'll run into this wandering sannyasi.' And here, I've met you."
"What else did the Lord Vishnu say to you?" asks the sannyasi. The man replies, "He said to me, 'If the man gives you a precious stone he has, you will be…

Dementia: What Congregations and Clergy Can Do


Articles: (review of book,the Second Forgetting) congregations can do)
Congregations and Faith Communities:
Trust that there is a monumental need in your area, if not also in your congregation. Estimates (Powerful Tools for Caregivers) state there are approximately 100,000 family caregivers in the Houston metro area alone. Advocate for this ministry in your parish. Start a conversation. A solid ministry to the frail elderly is an authentic witness, and a much overlooked path to reach adult children and their families. Provide practical help, such as respite care with option for support groups for caregivers.Provide educational resources for families (financing care, legal and medical). Learn to partner with other groups, such as Interfaith CarePartners (Houston), the Alzheimer’s Association, and others. Suggest a free care consultation with the Alzheimer’s Association…

Hope & Healing are possible


One problem with depression of all kinds is diagnosis. Because shades of darkness surround me like the Rothco Chapel paintings, how am I to discern what level of darkness I'm experiencing? Ignore the words said in ignorance: You're too young for depressionPastors are not supposed to be depressedDepression is a sign of moral failure and spiritual weaknessDon't be so selfishI can gut it out on my own
Listen to words that can truly encourage you:
Help is availableTaking care of myself is not selfish or weakI don't have to live like this I can get better   I am worth it Our system clearly needs healing, if it is producing more sickness and burn out than health. Clergy depression is taboo and a problem to be fixed if you listen to anyone concerned about clergy retention. Not too long ago, I heard a seminary dean bemoan clergy taking prescribed anti-depressants.

But compassion can be described as feeling with someone in their pain. Do clergy have some sort of invisib…