‘God understands the way to it, and he knows its place. And he said to humankind, “Truly, the fear of the Lord, that is wisdom; and to depart from evil is understanding.”' Job: 28:28
Job 28 is intriguing. There is an aspect of wisdom that is unknown, inaccessible, and mysterious. Job 28 appears in the middle of the Book of Job, and functions as an intermission in the poetic drama. There's no reference to Job or Job's famously unhelpful friends. Only God knows the way to wisdom. Wisdom, for humans, is the fear of the Lord, understood as the awe or respect of God leading to obedience.
Seeking the truth has a way of exposing the naivete I have about God, people, and myself. Wisdom can serve as a self-critical principle, challenging our cherished beliefs and unquestioned practices. Can you imagine wisdom making us less aware, less reflective, less free, and more fragmented?
A preference for seeing myself in a positive light or being in the right, is a tenacious enemy of clarity. I am sometimes blinded by neglecting to ask questions of myself, such as--why would I take this course of action?
In Parker Palmer's book, Let Your Life Speak, he discusses how a clearness committee equipped him with a vocational decision.* From the Quaker tradition, a clearness committee is composed of a small group who can be trusted to ask challenging questions throughout the session. They must refrain from giving advice. Only the one being questioned may respond. One of the hallmarks of this approach is the discerning and uncovering one's true motivation and intention.
In this instance. a college presidency was offered to Palmer. The job was his if he wanted it. During the course of the clearness meeting, the group continued to ask, "why?" Why did Palmer want to be president of this college? The truth did not emerge immediately. The question of "why" had to be asked several times. There were periods of silence. Finally, in a moment of clarity, the answer came to him. The truth was uncovered. Palmer was embarrassed to speak the honest truth: Palmer was interested in the job because he most wanted his photo and name in publication. He wanted a public announcement of his new status.
A clearness committee may not be right for everyone. I have greatly benefitted from spiritual direction. A third party such Spiritual Director who is trained in asking questions and listening, can offer great support on the journey to clarity. They too are engaged in this ancient practice; they are supervised, and observe confidentiality. Together, both Director and Directee listen to the Holy Spirit.***
1. Who are the people I can engage with an understanding to ask non-leading, advice-free questions for my benefit?
2. In discernment, how can my faith assist me in discovering a third way?
3. How can my true intentions and motivations be uncovered? How can seeing them assist in making wise, sustaining decisions.
*Find more information on Parker Palmer and his book at Let Your Life Speak: Listening to the Voice of Vocation.
**Clearness Committee information is available from the Friends General Conference.
***Spiritual Directors International is a good place to explore spiritual direction and to look for a spiritual director.