The physical costs of anger are well documented in the classic, Anger Kills by Redford and Virginia Williams. In most cases, when our anger has been triggered, we have already told ourselves one of two things (or maybe both): 1) the situation is not fair and 2) it's out of our control.What can I do with anger?
1. Recognize anger’s danger and destructiveness- for you and others.
2. Admit and identify a trigger—only when you are not angry.
3. Instead of venting it out, walk it out. Venting often makes me angrier. Walking can help me release the toxic overload of stress hormones and come to my senses.
4. Is my anger justified? If yes, is there any way I can work to improve the situation? If not, how can I diffuse anger- with wisdom, and even laughter?
5. Own your anger. I can’t expect others to deal with something I want to avoid. If I have hurt someone in anger, it is mine- not theirs- to go to them and make it right- simply, honestly and quickly.
6. Don’t lose sleep! Each evening, I can tell God my thanksgivings for the day, confess when I was ungrateful and dedicate my rest to God.
7. I can continue to choose what my spiritual legacy will be. What role will gratitude play in marking my life and character? What memories and words will describe my life?