|When is anger no longer "fun?"|
At some point, the pendulum swings on anger. It's when anger ceases to be fun. I remember one friend saying to me, "I'm just tired of being angry." There's energy depletion, exhaustion, depression, fatigue.
Is it when you realize the toll it takes on your mind, body, and spirit? The Big Book mentions painful "resentment" or "being burned up" as not only very destructive to spiritual health, but the number one offender in drinking again.
The physical costs are well documented in Anger Kills. Almost all the time, we tell ourselves one of two things (or maybe both) when we get angry: 1) a situation is not fair and 2) it's not under control. Think about what we're telling ourselves and then ask: "Is my anger justified?" and "Is there anything I can do about it?" Answering both of these questions first will provide further guidance on what to do with our anger.
St. Paul advises to let go of anger every day, by writing in Ephesians 4: 26-27: "Be angry without sinning. Don’t let the sun set on your anger. Don’t provide an opportunity for the devil." A simple bed time examen can be used by naming three life-giving things experienced in the day, three life- draining things, then move on to confession and thanksgiving.
The Cenacle, Houston is featuring the well known author and retreat leader Rev. Matt Linn, SJ Thursday, January 30, 2014 on "The Fun Sin." Please check here to register for this professional day for spiritual directors.