Attributing his childhood survival to God, that voice within of comfort and strength amidst the worst dished out to him, Perry states:
To know that the little boy that I was went through all that-- he went through and made it. Then me, as a man...I have to take on the responsibility of forgiving all those people. I owe it to the little boy that I was and, more than that, I owe it to the man that I am. Think about it, as a child we have no recourse. We have nowhere to go. We have to endure it. But as adults, we have choices. I choose to forgive with all my might. Forgiveness has been my weapon of choice. It has helped to free me.
As Perry notes, choosing forgiveness is very much about self-preservation as well as healing. Instead of doing harm to ourselves or wanting to see others suffer, we're the ones released and set free. We give up the terribly draining chore of playing official score keeper in the personal court of retributive justice! But the thirst for vengeance runs deep. It's physically fueled by the angry fight response which saps our energy. That's why regularly praying for those who do us harm is so important. It's how "choosing life" is practiced, on the ground.